Why Do I Always Feel Like I'm Not Good Enough? The Truth About Where That Belief Comes From—and How to Heal It - ep 26

April 09, 2025

If you’ve ever caught yourself thinking “I’m not enough”—you’re not broken, you’re human. In this raw and transformative episode, Sam Morris dives straight into one of the most painful and persistent beliefs people carry: the feeling of not being good enough.

Whether it stems from toxic relationships, childhood rejection, or years of self-doubt, Sam helps you understand why this belief forms, how it shows up in your dating life, and what you can do to finally unlearn it. Through her coaching lens and lived experience, she offers grounded strategies to help you rebuild self-worth, practice conscious affirmation, and step back into your power.

This episode is for anyone healing from emotional wounds, trying to stop seeking validation from others, and finally ready to feel like enough—just as they are.

💻 Learn more about Sam’s work: thesammorris.com
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You’ll Learn

Why “I’m not enough” is often a learned belief, not a truth
How past rejection and emotional trauma shape your self-image
What happens when we internalize others’ bad behavior
How to start reinforcing new, empowering beliefs
Why healing self-worth is key to healthy relationships
Actionable affirmations and mindset shifts you can begin today
How to stop attracting people who reflect your deepest insecurities

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Takeaways

A lot of the time, this is subconscious.
This feeling of not feeling good enough started a long time ago.
It was created by rejections, being treated badly.
Those things hit deep.
It's not abnormal to feel like this.
You will naturally start to think that yourself.
Reinforce a new belief.
You are good enough.
It's created by other people's bad behavior.
Gradually, you will stop feeling like you're not good enough.

Want to stop feeling like you’re never enough? Start here.

Learn more about Sam : thesammorris.com

📲 Follow Sam on Instagram: thesammorrisc

Episode Transcript

Samantha Morris (00:00.194)
Hello and welcome back to whatever happens to the Gentleman podcast. The podcast for empowered dating, healthy relationships and my no BS approach. I am your host, Sam Morris. You have probably realised that I'm playing around with the introduction and a lot of people that have podcasts, they pre-record.

their welcome message and I probably should do that but I just record it every single time I jump on. Anyway I am back with one of my quick tip episodes and this one is a little bit different because I am starting to answer some of the questions that I get asked quite regularly by my clients, by the people in my programs.

because I think that if they are thinking those things, then maybe some of my listeners slash watchers will also be thinking those things. So today's question is, why do I always feel like I'm not good enough? And a lot of the time, this is subconscious, and you'll hear me talk about a subconscious mind all the time, because a lot of the time, we don't even realize

that we feel like we're not good enough. So a lot of the time it is in our actions. It is in our allowing people to treat us in a certain way, even if we don't like it.

Samantha Morris (01:43.222)
The majority of the time when people feel like this, and I say the majority of the time because I've worked with thousands of people and every single person that I've worked with that doesn't feel like they're good enough has the same pattern. This feeling of not feeling good enough started a long time ago. It was created by rejections, being treated badly.

being told you weren't good enough, being told off by parents sometimes for not being smart enough, not being athletic enough.

generally being a teenager if you had my upbringing.

Samantha Morris (02:41.804)
Those things hit deep.

Samantha Morris (02:46.956)
And when those voices start replaying in your head, it's very hard to battle them. And then you team that with other relationships as you've got older that have also had rejection, hurt.

being told you're not good enough, being told that you, you know, they're not with you because of the way that you are. And that just reinforces those feelings inside you. And so what I want to say to you is that it's not abnormal to feel like this. When you have been through

someone else making you feel like you aren't good enough, you will naturally start to think that yourself. The majority of people that I work with have been through a lot of relationship traumas and that isn't just from romantic relationships.

And it is normal to not just be over it because you're out of that relationship, you don't speak to that person anymore.

So what I want you to do today, and I teach a lot more about how to let go of this and kind of building your worth in my program, is I want you every single time a doubt comes into your head about whether you are good enough. I want you to tell yourself that you are. And this thought has just been created by other people's bad behavior.

Samantha Morris (04:37.964)
and I'd really like you to write it down and have it somewhere where you can see it so that the same process is happening you are reinforcing a new belief those beliefs that other people's bad behaviors created within you are being replaced and reinforced every single time you say it to yourself you read it about yourself and gradually

with a little bit of work, you will stop feeling like you're not good enough.

That is all today. I am gonna be back with a longer episode on Friday and then again next week with another quick tip. I think I'm also going to answer another question from one of my clients for you.

And if you just landed here randomly because maybe my search engine optimisation is good and you don't know who I am, I am Sam Morris. I am an empowered dating, healthy relationships and sex coach and I have been doing this for over 10 years. If you want to connect with me, I am on Instagram at thesammorrissee.

And can also find me on my website, thesanmores.com.

Samantha Morris (06:12.078)
speak to you all very soon.

Why Do I Always Feel Like I'm Not Good Enough? The Truth About Where That Belief Comes From—and How to Heal It - ep 26

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