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Hello and welcome back to whatever happened to the Gentleman podcast. I am your host Sam Morris and most of you by now will already know me, but if you are listening to this for the first time, I am an empowered dating coach. have been helping people find healthy relationships, move on from the past for the past 10 years.
Today's episode is going to be a little bit different to the other ones that I normally do.
A lot of my content for this podcast comes from what is going on around me and I have been creating a few little cheat sheets to help my clients move through their emotions quicker and so this one is a simplified version of
what is in the healing haven.
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Today I want to talk to you about how you are keeping yourself happy. So often we as humans think our happiness comes from outside of ourselves. We rely on external things to make us happy, to keep us happy. So we think things like if we make enough money we'll be able to buy the things that we want and then we will be happy.
If I just get that promotion then I will be happy.
When I find love, then I will be happy.
And even, and I'm going to go really dark here.
If that person who hurt me so badly suddenly gets struck by lightning, then I'd really be happy. The problem with this is that we are relying on outside situations to control our inside emotions. And it's no different to thinking having an alcoholic drink
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will make you feel better. When actually it just numbs the problem for a bit and then you probably feel worse. You're hung over. When we're hung over and dehydrated, our brain doesn't work properly, which means that we are then in a negative cycle because our brain can't work properly.
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So what I want us to do today is practice being happy.
And know some of you will be like, I don't know what she's talking about here. And just go with it. If you have been listening to this podcast for a while, then you will know not to blame my own trumpet, but I do know what I'm talking about. And this will make you feel better.
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I'd like you to sit down and find a quiet place.
sit on the floor with your back against the wall or sofa or just sit in a chair with your feet firmly planted on the floor.
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and I want you to close your eyes.
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Let's picture you are on a beach.
You can hear the waves crashing against the sand.
The sun is shining bright above and you feel the warmth of it on your face.
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Now that you're sitting on the sand.
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I'd like you to repeat these words after me.
This is happiness.
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I am happy.
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I love myself.
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This is what happiness feels like for me.
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I love being happy.
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I only need myself to be happy.
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Happiness is something I create within.
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And as you feel the gentle breeze on your face.
You hear the birds singing along with you. You see yourself rise up, standing tall.
and you walk into the sea.
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The cold water hits you.
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You hear the splash of the waves now hitting you.
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And now repeat, I am choosing to be happy.
It is done.
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And you can start to gently bring yourself out of this. Wiggle your fingers, wiggle your toes. Open your eyes when you're ready.
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You will now notice that there has been a shift.
within your body.
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That's your happiness. Right there. And you can hold it.
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Happiness doesn't come from external sources. It doesn't matter how many times you do something, how much money you make.
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how much love you have.
if you don't have happiness in your core.
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and that's why today was a little bit of a different...
podcast episode because so many of my clients have said when they joined the program they knew that they were going to get the stuff about self-love and learning what a healthy relationship is and moving on from the past but they didn't realize the amount of things that they would get to do with mindset
and managing our emotions. And so I thought that I would include a few of these sessions into the podcast every so often because it's not all about giving you theories about what you can do and what you can't do. It's about a complete transformation. Your subconscious mind needs transformation and it isn't always quick.
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So every time you feel your negative emotions are getting the better of you, just come back to this episode and listen to it again. And be on the beach again. And sit in your happiness. You get to choose.
how you feel. And if no one's ever told you that, shame on all the people around you.
That's it. Super quick episode today. Thank you so much for listening. As always, I appreciate every single listener out there. And if you want to find out a little bit more about me...
you can find me at thesammorris.com or I'm on Instagram at thesammorrisc. I look forward to connecting with you.