Hey,
I want to talk about this bird theory nonsense that's going viral right now?
You know the one... where you're supposed to say "I saw a bird today" to test if someone's interested in you?
Yeah, that one.
I'm going to be straight with you: it's a load of crap.
And here's why:
(If you;re more of a listener than a reader, I made a youtube video all about it too.)
1. They Don't Know You Yet
If you're on a first or second date and you randomly say "I saw a bird today," they're going to be confused. Not disinterested...confused.
Because that's a weird thing to say to someone who barely knows you.
2. Stop Testing, Start Feeling
Why are we so obsessed with testing people instead of focusing on how they make us feel?
No personality test, no dating theory, no viral TikTok trend is going to tell you if someone's right for you.
The only thing that matters is: Do you feel calm with them? Or do you walk away overthinking everything you said?
Trust your intuition over any test.
3. It's From the 1990s (Need I Say More?)
Back then, we were sitting on house phones with our friends for exactly 59 minutes before it became chargeable. Dating was completely different. The world was different.
So why on earth are we taking dating advice from a 30+ year old theory?
4. Life Happens
Maybe they just got off a night shift. Maybe their cat died that morning but they didn't want to cancel because they actually like you. Maybe they're just having an off day.
This theory expects humans to be "on" 100% of the time. And we're just... not.
5. What Are You Going to Do With That Information?
Let's say they don't respond the "right" way. Are you really going to throw away a potentially amazing connection because they didn't ask what colour or type the bird was?
What if, like me, they're actually terrified of birds and want to move that conversation along as quickly as possible?
The verdict: The right person for you will make you feel safe, calm, and like the best version of yourself. No test required.
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Remember: you deserve someone who makes you feel good, not someone who knows how to pass a test.
Speak soon,
Sam Morris
Empowered Dating Coach
P.S. Have you had someone try the bird theory on you? Hit reply and tell me about it, I'm genuinely curious to hear your stories!
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