Hey it's Sam,
back with my newsletter.
This week is all about the scars we carry within our nervous system, I'm going to get a little bit raw with you, so bare with me.
On saturday, I went to a festival and it was so good. The sun was shining, it was in London (my favourite place) and it was great vibes.
But what happened before the festival shocked me.
So I decided to wear this outfit.
And the minute I put it on, I thought "this isn't right." The top was slightly see through and it made me feel weird.
Not weird in the sense that i was uncomfortable.
Weird in the sense, thatI spent years covering myself up because everytime I wore something the tiniest bit on show, I would get grief for it.
I would get "who are you wearing that for?"
Or the time my wardrobe ended up with punch hole damage because I'd put a dress on to go to work.
And that was what surprised me so much on Saturday, was that I felt that fear, it was very real within my body...
because the body remembers first.
And despite it being at least 12 years since the last time anyone commented on what I was wearing. I still felt that.
Why am I telling you all of this?
Because a lot of the people on my email list will read what I said and their body will react, because they have the same or similar experience.
Even if it isn't to do with clothing, that fear, that minimisation of yourself, that losing a sense of who you are because you are fitting into someone elses version of what they want out of a partner.
I'd say 99% of the people on my email list, know that feeling.
And I wanted to tell you, that you aren't alone in it.
What did I do?
Because I've healed my nervous system, I sense danger when it's coming for me. What I mean by danger, is the mindset, not physical danger.
It would have been easy for to change, put some jeans on a t-shirt. But that is dangerous, because that means, I am still allowing someone else to control who I am.
SO I stood up, I did a little dance in the mirror and I told myself
"you are beautiful, you are in control and you don't live that life anymore. You get to be who you want to be and that's just the way it is".
Why did I dance?
Because there is a lot of research around movement and self talk.
How it will go into your nervous system and subconcious easier if you are moving.
And that is what I am going to task you with. Today.
Come up with a mantra and say it whilst moving your body.
And let me know what you;ve come up with by replying to this email. I'd love to hear how you are taking control of your future.
xx
Sam
Ps. if you want to start your journey into healing that nervous system, my self love bundle is currently reduced from £180 to £22.
PPS. if you;re wondering what Alan said, listen to the podcast this week.
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