Why You Still Haven’t Found Healthy Love

Hey, 

so I found myself a few weeks ago on the receiving end of the one thing I talk about all the time. 

A dysregulated nervous system, I know I talk about the nervous system dating trap all the time but this problem can come up in all areas of life. 
And it normally happens through some form of hurt or trauma. 

So my dad was rushed into hospital, with a perforated appendix. 
And I started back with the signs, you know: the anxiety, the being unable to sleep properly, really tense shoulders and a few mood swings. 

And if you were on this email list in March 2024 you will probably realise why. 
You may remember how my dad fell off a roof and nearly lost his leg. 
And you may remember how over the 3 weeks in hospital we discovered he had an alcohol problem. 

So this latest incident, made me realise I hadn't gotten over the previous one. And it was telling, the plus side for me is, I know how to recognise this problem and how to fix it. 

Most people don't. 

Do you have the same problem? 

Most people get out of a relationship, stay single for a little while and then start dating again without ever looking at what went wrong last time and how to heal from it. 

If you've ever asked yourself,

“Why do I keep ending up in the same kind of relationships even though I know better?”

You’re not alone.

Most people don't realise: 

This isn't a dating or relationship problem...

you're stuck in the nervous system dating trap! 

And a dysregulated nervous system can sabotage even your best intentions when it comes to love.

And if you listened to my podcast episode on the 13 Hidden Signs of Nervous System Dysregulation in Dating, you may already suspect this is what’s going on for you. 

Listen to the episode here - https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/whatever-happened-to-gentle-men/id1743178490?i=1000714795437

Let me paint a picture for you…

You finally meet someone who’s consistent, kind, and emotionally available.

You should feel calm.

But instead?
You feel on edge. Irritable. Even bored.

You start looking for what’s “wrong” with them.
You pull away, or worse — pick a fight over something small.

Sound familiar?

That’s not a red flag in them. That’s your nervous system misfiring — because safe feels unfamiliar.

When your body is wired for chaos, calm feels threatening. When you’ve spent years surviving, thriving in a healthy relationship can actually feel… unsafe.

And no mindset shift or dating strategy will fix that — until your nervous system starts to feel safe enough to receive love.

And this is exactly why I created the Aligned Love Audio Program.

It’s not just about “getting out there” or how to attract more people, icky dating hacks.

It’s about rewiring the part of you that has been hurt over and over — and guiding your system into safety, self-trust, and genuine connection.

So if you're tired of being stuck in cycles that don’t make sense, and ready to feel emotionally safe in dating again…

👉 Click here to explore Aligned Love

Your heart wants love.
Your body just needs help believing it’s finally safe to have it.

Hit reply and let me know which symptom shows up for you. 

Sam xx